F.A.R continued.

Forgiving is freeing yourself from mental and emotional imprisonment of someone’s inability to care for you the way you do. Meaning to recognize that sins are spiritual attacks on the soul, which wounds the innocence we once had, through the lack of protection from those who were entrusted to us as children to care. To care is to speak the truth, seek wisdom, respect, protect, instruct, guide, nurture, encourage. It’s all a form of love, but being under the impression that love is pain, one becomes bound by these beliefs therefore never breaking the cycle. To understand how to forgive someone for what you know to be normal behavior, one must experience something completely different from what they’ve known to be true. That process is scary. Someone has to care enough to stand by the person who knows nothing about love until its safe from them to reflect over all memories of what wasn’t love and say to the child within I’m sorry I didn’t protect you will you forgive me, then a realization of understanding maybe those who hurt me experienced the same pain and this is all they know, maybe if they were loved I wouldn’t have suffered and extend grace that they knew not what they do in terms of knowing this isn’t love but hate and free myself from suffering alone and let it go. To know that their actions have nothing to do with me and why it happened to me if just happened to be a soul who had enough love to give and they needed it more no matter the sin committed they need to feel important even if wasn’t important to them I can forgive their sins because I too have done shameful things I’ve needed forgiveness for and I had to see that it’s our choice’s that determine if we are moving in love or hate. Someone who is filled with deep pain and suffering without an outlet due to shame and guilt, that hides the secrets of their own sins is internal hell. I rather chose forgiveness, so I don’t become prisoner to my own suffering of pain forgiving is to choose love over the pain and know that what others do and say isn’t your fault love yourself and them anyways. expectations lead to disappointments so when we get disappointed we become bitter but if you're expecting me to live up to your expectations whose fault is that it's not mine because I am not perfect but if you're expecting me to be perfect when only God is perfect then we continue to live a life of trying to be accepted by seeking external validation from others trying to fit in trying to make sure we're performing for others the way they expect us to and then wonder why were broken wounded because we associate ourselves with the identities the world label us as instead of just being ourselves and knowing that what we do is who we are and that if God can understand that then why can't we?